HunnyComb

A curated starting list for Bees who want to go deeper

HunnyMeter opens the door. What's behind it is yours to explore. These are resources we believe in, for people who want to go deeper into communication, connection, consent, intimacy, and healing.

Four decades of research on what makes relationships work. Start with the "Four Horsemen", the communication patterns most likely to damage a relationship, and how to counter them.
Marshall Rosenberg's framework for communicating needs and feelings without blame or judgment. The book: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life.
Come As You Are is one of the best books written on the science of desire, including why it's fluid, why it varies between people, and why that's not only normal but beautiful. Directly relevant to everything HunnyMeter is about.
The creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy, a practical, research-backed approach to building secure connection. Her book Hold Me Tight is a wonderful starting point, and her site has podcasts and further reading.
A physician-developed framework for transformational conversations about intimacy and consent. STARS: Safety & Boundaries, Turn-Ons & Desires, Avoids & Hard No's, Relationship Intentions & Expectations, Sexual Health & Wellness.
A somatic framework for understanding giving, receiving, taking, and allowing in intimate contexts.
Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, Specific. A clear grounding for anyone new to explicit consent conversations.
A Master Certified Life Coach with advanced training in somatic healing, breathwork, meditation, and nervous system regulation. Also holds a Trauma-Informed Certification through the Centre for Healing. Someone we trust for the deeper work.
A licensed trauma therapist with 20+ years of clinical experience, now coaching clients through transformative, compassion-based practices including IFS Parts Work, EMDR, Sound Meditation, and Psychedelic Assisted Therapy. Bay Area based.
A Bay Area psychotherapist's guide to processing and releasing stored emotional pain, what she calls "emotional potty training." Practical, irreverent, and warmly human. Received a starred review in Library Journal.
The foundational book on how trauma lives in the body and how healing happens somatically.
Free app with thousands of guided meditations, including practices specifically for couples and intimacy.

Research into psychedelic-assisted therapy for relationship healing, intimacy, and emotional connection is growing rapidly. We include these resources because the science is serious and the relevance to conscious connection is real.

A leading nonprofit research and education organization advancing the study of psychedelics and their therapeutic potential, including MDMA-assisted therapy for PTSD and relationship trauma.
The most accessible introduction to the science and history of psychedelic research.
A well-curated news and research aggregator covering the psychedelic medicine space.

HunnyMeter does not endorse any specific therapeutic approach. Please consult qualified healthcare providers.

Short, accessible pieces online and in his book True Love: A Practice for Awakening the Heart. Beautiful framing of presence as the foundation of intimacy.
A secular mindfulness app with strong scientific grounding. Good for people who want the practice without the spiritual framing. (Paid subscription.)
A free meditation app built around Shinzen Young's clear, uniform system of instruction. A wonderful, accessible starting point for anyone new to the practice.
The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. Use their directory to find a vetted professional.
Find a Gottman-trained couples therapist near you.

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